Sense and sexuality


A few days ago, Woman, Create invited me as a guest performer in their first open mic night Here I Am. It was an intimate gathering of girls (and a few boys) to talk about everything and anything about being a woman. A lot of people shared about their struggles with depression, anxiety, and society’s norms. Needless to say, there were quite a few tears shed. But there was two girls who surprised us with excerpts from the Vagina Monologues. Honestly, I haven’t seen the entire play before but I know it enough to recognize lines from the show.

It was fun and all; them shouting the word vagina in basically every sentence that they speak. Some girls were laughing, too, but most of them from embarrassment. I couldn’t help but wonder: Why is sexuality such a taboo subject to speak of in public? Or in general? I’m 23 years old so I’ve gained enough confidence to talk about my sexuality. What disappoints me is it is sometimes welcomed by strange (this is the more polite term) looks. What’s wrong about discussing my body and my perfectly human experience? I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one with the vagina in the world.

A few months ago, I was introduced to a brand called Ilya. To put it simply: they’re an online sex toy shop. But what got me is their entire branding. Firstly, their logo is on point. I love how they played with butts and bunny ears and I just found it so cute. This alone made me want to work with them. Arvin, one of the founders, was discussing their inspiration behind the brand. They want to open up a conversation about sex and sexuality and inspire a culture that is more open to things like this. Because there’s nothing better than education when it comes to sex. Anything related to your body or health should be openly discussed, no matter how “taboo” it is for other people.

I just find it so inspiring that they courageously did something like this. They made sex more playful and less intimidating as it should be. AH! I don’t know how else to describe it. You just really, really need to check out the website. They worked with Serious Studio on this one so it’s no wonder why it’s so good.

If you’re new to all of this (I am too, don’t worry), you can take the test in their website and find out which one you should get first. They have awesome customer service, so if you have any questions about any gadgets (mini game: try to figure out which end goes where, it’s fun) you can just ask them. And if you finally decide what to get, just do it. They kindly gave me a coupon code to share with y’all so you can get a cute little discount: MMxilya. It expires this month so better hurry.

Have you seen Arden Rose’s sex Q&A? That was so good. Watch it here.


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